tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post4602129545629197217..comments2023-05-26T07:41:53.109-05:00Comments on Afterthoughts On A Whirlwind Journey: Of Self, Sex, Love, and RelationshipsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-47572565070777530402016-03-09T01:53:59.376-06:002016-03-09T01:53:59.376-06:00Great information to say the least. I really do ap...Great information to say the least. I really do appreciate everything so much from this great website.<br /><a href="http://itsaboutfeelings.com/" rel="nofollow">love and relationships </a> & <a href="http://itsaboutfeelings.com/forum/" rel="nofollow">share your thoughts</a> & <a href="http://itsaboutfeelings.com/forum/" rel="nofollow">share your feelings</a> <br /> <br /> <br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-23432203254868721102013-08-01T09:09:51.451-05:002013-08-01T09:09:51.451-05:00Wow!!! what a great post..Hats off admin
http://w...Wow!!! what a great post..Hats off admin<br /><br /><a href="http://www.suppliercompete.com/web-design/adodis-reviews" rel="nofollow">http://www.suppliercompete.com/web-design/adodis-reviews</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07230615508548306092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-42216906259657862262012-04-24T22:52:16.197-05:002012-04-24T22:52:16.197-05:00Jack,
Thanks for commenting. It's good to kn...Jack,<br /><br />Thanks for commenting. It's good to know I'm not alone in this sort of struggle. I wish you the best in your own journey.Brendonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18248268499428066786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-39536927916076811272012-04-23T22:52:38.662-05:002012-04-23T22:52:38.662-05:00I think he is handsome... He is smart and witty......<i>I think he is handsome... He is smart and witty... I love that he challenges me in my thinking, that he is always patient with me, always willing to listen, always willing to be there for me. And I love his faith in God. We have so many things we share in common. And I know if I could choose one person to spend the rest of my life with, he would be my pick. I would choose to give everything of myself to him, without regret, and I don’t doubt that for even a second.<br /><br />It hurts knowing how much I love him, knowing I’ve found the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, knowing that he could share those same feelings with me, but knowing that that can never happen. I’ve struggled so much trying to figure out how to respond to this love. It is not just the love for a friend. It is beyond any measure a romantic love as well. It’s both, really. I want to be able to look him in the eyes and tell him I love him, and for him to know that beyond God, that holds most for him. I want to be able to come home to him every day. I want to embrace him. I want to hold hands with him. I want to hear his voice and feel his presence every day. I want to take care of him when he’s sick. I want to grow old with him. I want to feel my soul connected with his. I want to do all those things a married couple can do together. And, yes, to even make love with him.</i><br /><br />I find myself LITERALLY in the same exact spot with a friend of mine. It's uncanny how your words echo my own. As of right now, I've been honest with him concerning my feelings towards him, and we're just letting our friendship go it's "normal" course (whatever that looks like). For me, being honest with him will help both of us in the long run regardless of the decision we make concerning the furthering of our relationship; if we pursue each other, then he already knows how I feel about him so there's not that scary "what if he doesn't feel the same way" thing. If we just stay friends, he knows how I feel about him so appropriate boundaries can be set in place to keep our friendship healthy (though I don't want ANY boundaries with him).<br /><br />I just wanted to say that I can relate.Jackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13405414074845202307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-19621887777224447192012-04-12T22:42:00.241-05:002012-04-12T22:42:00.241-05:00TS, thanks for commenting. I appreciate your conc...TS, thanks for commenting. I appreciate your concern. :)Brendonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18248268499428066786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-59193244583886764602012-04-09T20:29:12.919-05:002012-04-09T20:29:12.919-05:00Hi Brandon,
Forgot to say that you should try not...Hi Brandon,<br /><br />Forgot to say that you should try not to feel bad about your past actions, but make certain that you LEARN from them; they only become mistakes when you don't learn from them.TheTrutherSceptichttp://www.zippcast.com/user/TheTrutherScepticnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-10181504795164811402012-04-09T19:46:23.383-05:002012-04-09T19:46:23.383-05:00Hi Brandon,
Came across your blog & wanted to...Hi Brandon,<br /><br />Came across your blog & wanted to comment. Nice effort you have here. I invite you to read my profile on Zippcast: http://www.zippcast.com/user/TheTrutherSceptic<br /><br />About the quandary you find yourself in, I'd like to offer my $0.02. Firstly, there are a LOT of things about SSA & its perceptions that come from the masses & the media that are UNTRUE. The glbt lobby has everyone is hysteria, partly due to society's (esp religion) failure to take care of these ppl and offer them support for their feelings.<br /><br />Keep in mind that the majority of ppl who "come out", like celebs, that marine etc, do so under pressure from what their so-called friends. They know little about the facts of the issue, but cannot be blamed as they simply seek relief for what they THINK they understand. <br /><br />SEcondly, you need to internallize the facts of your SSA and its nature; the http://narth.com site is filled with scientific info as well as real testimonies with strugglers that can help you. You MUST put your physical & mental health above the opinions of the masses.<br /><br />Thirdly, only you can decipher what your SSA means, from where they originate and how you want to deal with them. This isn't an easy decision. Remember that feelings can & do change.<br /><br />Whatever you do, you must remember to obtain the facts, keep healthy & understand yourself & your inner needs. No one can be blamed for feelings, experiences & life situation, so don't let that get you down. But act rationally & keep yourself safe.<br /><br />I have some more info on this topic, but it's too much so I'd like to email it to you if you'd like.TheTrutherSceptichttp://www.zippcast.com/user/TheTrutherScepticnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-79756733551629766252012-03-14T21:12:04.213-05:002012-03-14T21:12:04.213-05:00But who knows?
Just don't run ahead Brandon. ...But who knows?<br /><br />Just don't run ahead Brandon. Everything will work out better if you let God set it up. <br /><br />And who else have you got in this world besides God?Andynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-2892464029202425242012-03-14T21:08:20.738-05:002012-03-14T21:08:20.738-05:00Boy do I know what you're talking about!
Many ...Boy do I know what you're talking about!<br />Many times I ask God if this is <i>really</i> the best possible outcome.<br /><br />It does not make sense to me either, but I simply cannot be convinced otherwise. So I am left really at a standstill.<br /><br />I can tell you that every time I ask "why"; the answer that <b>seems</b> to come back almost uniformly (in different ways)is related in some way to service to others.<br /><br />If I'll hazard a guess as to what I <i>think</i> God might be trying to say that my unique position puts me in a place where I can relate to the less fortunate. Same-sex attracted people could <b>potentially</b> be (that is, have the potential to be) the most considerate human beings around because of their unique experiences.Andynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-44103885975221144562012-03-11T12:13:35.854-05:002012-03-11T12:13:35.854-05:00Gaypk, of course I remember you! And I'm glad...Gaypk, of course I remember you! And I'm glad to see you're blogging again.<br /><br />Yes, I have found the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. I'm torn between knowing whether or not being with him would be a sin though. If it is, then I'll do my best not to persue him, romantically. He's sort of in the same boat right now though, trying to figure things out. But if he asked me, I really don't think I'd be able to resist at all. At least it'd be the hardest question I'd ever have to say no to.<br /><br />But like with Corrie Ten Boom, who I wrote about, I recognize he might not choose me for certain reasons. If that happens, then, like her, I will definitely have to pray and work on how to love him as just a friend.<br /><br />It's good to hear from you. I wish you the best in your own journey, and will be keeping you in my prayers as you go through some of these same things. :)Brendonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18248268499428066786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-26450197847287935322012-03-11T03:00:24.410-05:002012-03-11T03:00:24.410-05:00Hey Brandon,
Gaypk here. Don't know if you ...Hey Brandon, <br /><br />Gaypk here. Don't know if you remember me (haven't been active in the blogosphere recently). <br /><br />I've read you last few posts and I definitely get what you're saying. I feel almost the same way. <br /><br />I've spent a large part of 4 yrs examining my faith. My motivation for this is due, in part, to a desire to know whether I'll ever be able to pursue a relationship with another man. <br /><br />I hope to post more about that faith journey on my blog, but I can say that I'm not nearly confident enough in my faith or in my interpretation of Christianity to abandon all hope of a loving, lifelong relationship with another man. <br /><br />In fact, if I were in your shoes (knowing I’ve found the person I want to spend the rest of my life with), I wouldn't hesitate to pursue that relationship. <br /><br />Anyway, just my thoughts.gaypkhttp://calledtobegay.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-38794996193715770912012-03-10T16:39:41.100-06:002012-03-10T16:39:41.100-06:00N, I'm not sure what to think of your response...N, I'm not sure what to think of your response. I know I can have love without sex. I know I can live without sex. I'm not confusing sex for love or love for sex. I want to be married. But I want to be married to another man. I'm in love with another man.<br /><br />Imagine telling a straight man he can never marry a woman, and even if he did, he can never have sex with her. Why, for what purpose? How is what you describe two people coming together? And how in the world could I ever be so close to a man (based on what you said should be okay), and not eventually get weak enough to make love with him, because I guarantee it'd happen.<br /><br />I don't understand. All I hear is that restricted friendship is okay, but that's it. Wanting to share everything of myself with him, including my sexuality, is too far. So friendship is the best I can ever hope for. But I want more than just friendship with someone.Brendonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18248268499428066786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-45842161742348530382012-03-10T15:22:04.824-06:002012-03-10T15:22:04.824-06:00"It hurts knowing how much I love him, knowin...<i>"It hurts knowing how much I love him, knowing I’ve found the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, knowing that he could share those same feelings with me, but knowing that that can never happen. I’ve struggled so much trying to figure out how to respond to this love. It is not just the love for a friend. It is beyond any measure a romantic love as well. It’s both, really. I want to be able to look him in the eyes and tell him I love him, and for him to know that beyond God, that holds most for him. I want to be able to come home to him every day. I want to embrace him. I want to hold hands with him. I want to hear his voice and feel his presence every day. I want to take care of him when he’s sick. I want to grow old with him. I want to feel my soul connected with his. I want to do all those things a married couple can do together. And, yes, to even make love with him. And yet, I resist."</i><br /><br />The only thing I think you need to resist is that last bit about making love with him. As I see it, the rest of it is okay. You don't have to call it anything. You can just let it happen, if he's willing as well.<br /><br /><i>"Why is it that I’ve come so far to learn so much what true love is all about, and to truly love someone in this manner, just to be told that it’s an unholy love that God would never approve of?"</i><br /><br />I don't think the love itself is unholy. All true love is of God, so God does not disapprove of any true love.<br /><br /><i>"Love is one of the greatest things in this world, something that Christ himself advocated more than anything else, and yet I’m denied the love of another?"</i><br /><br />Of course the love that Christ was talking about wasn't simply romantic love. He was talking about the love of benevolence. That said, it seems you are conflating having the love of another and having sex with that other.<br /><br />As I think I've said before, there have been people in my life that I wished I could be with forever, but I didn't think our happiness would require sex.naturgesetzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15268507379933286863noreply@blogger.com