tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post8728456155550304492..comments2023-05-26T07:41:53.109-05:00Comments on Afterthoughts On A Whirlwind Journey: WomanUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-3311094645116851352010-03-08T17:19:42.310-06:002010-03-08T17:19:42.310-06:00I forgot to start following your blog until a new ...I forgot to start following your blog until a new comment on your "Broken" post reminded me of you. So now I'm following, and I've added you to the Blog List on my blog.<br /><br />Now to this post. I agree that you should tell a woman you aren't interested in her romantically when it is evident that she is seeking a romantic relationship. I haven't seen enough of your blog to know how "out" you are. Obviously the more people you tell without first swearing them to silence, the wider and faster the information spreads. In principle, I see no problem with telling if you think it will help her accept your lack of interest.<br /><br />I think it is healthy for you to have strong non-sexual friendships with men. It is even possible that they will be a stage in the healing of your own sexuality, if some theories are correct. But the friendships are good in any case.<br /><br />As for the women, I think you can't force yourself to want to have a girlfriend or wife. So I would say you should be comfortable not wanting them to get "too close." Your feelings are largely spontaneous. But if you think you are becoming disdainful toward a particular woman, perhaps it will help if you remind yourself that it is not really the woman but the thought of a romantic relationship that is the problem.naturgesetzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15268507379933286863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-37473072303254319882010-01-31T18:14:18.614-06:002010-01-31T18:14:18.614-06:00Wow, running across your post today is interesting...Wow, running across your post today is interesting. I have a woman friend who fits the pattern of the one you described. She knows where I have been (SSA) and we've talked about it but whenever I am around her I get the distinct feeling she has ideas of getting closer. I want to be her friend but as you I back off when she gets too intense.<br /><br />On a similar note, a while back I went for a talk with a Pastor friend I know. Near the end of our conversation he said he thought I needed a close relationship with a member of the opposite sex. I wanted to say NO, NO, NOT THAT! but I listened, even as he prayed at the end. I have thought much about it since and even at times lately find myself considering what a close relationship would be like for me with a woman. Can I get past the part of just being a friend and the trepidation inside of getting too close? As you said, "Am I rejecting something meant to be good-a gift or blessing from God?"<br /><br />Look forward to hearing more of your thoughts on this dilemma.<br /><br />Stanstanwhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07470558145823645718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-49762193638814326332010-01-14T03:12:21.823-06:002010-01-14T03:12:21.823-06:00Aphra and Samantha,
Thanks for the advice. I'...Aphra and Samantha,<br /><br />Thanks for the advice. I've felt sort of like I'm in a balancing act with my friend lately, between spending just enough time with her to still be her friend, but staying away enough so that, hopefully, she won't develop some sort of an attachment to me or will just catch on that I don't like her like that. If she makes a move though, or I start sensing more definitely that she wants me for a boyfriend, I think I will just tell her the truth. I think you two are right. That'd be the best policy, rather than just stringing her along or something stupid like that.Brendonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18248268499428066786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-57684254579314730942010-01-09T20:37:22.740-06:002010-01-09T20:37:22.740-06:00aaSamanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02216416424593449924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-86966965364741469882010-01-09T20:36:46.299-06:002010-01-09T20:36:46.299-06:00I agree. And she might be hurt at first, and need ...I agree. And she might be hurt at first, and need time to process the idea that you do not, and never will desire her sexually, but if she values you as a person and wishes to have you in her life, she'll figure out how to allow the relationship to morph into something platonic and healthy. <br /><br />Also, by telling her the truth, you give her freedom, in essence, to seek a romantic relationship with someone else. That's important, and the longer you wait, the more attached she'll become to you and the more painful it will be for her to hear and accept the truth.<br /><br />I wish you well. I have several opposite sex friends and they bless my life every day.Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02216416424593449924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-77092123559300310212010-01-09T18:14:15.790-06:002010-01-09T18:14:15.790-06:00I think it's better to tell the truth earlier ...I think it's better to tell the truth earlier than later. If you are already thinking of avoiding her then worrying about messing up the friendship doesn't make much sense! It's better to tell her if you are gay, or even if you are just confused so she doesn't get too attached to you in the wrong way.<br /><br />Telling the truth deepens true friendships, I think!<br /><br />Wishing you all the best in this.Aphrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10305703323452736423noreply@blogger.com