tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post656403966759793878..comments2023-05-26T07:41:53.109-05:00Comments on Afterthoughts On A Whirlwind Journey: If It Makes Me HappyUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-67318514686648580972008-07-11T12:46:00.000-05:002008-07-11T12:46:00.000-05:00hey, how's it going brandon?i just want to leave a...hey, how's it going brandon?<BR/>i just want to leave a comment saying that I was really encouraged by what you wrote. <BR/>too many times, i'm turned off when people say "jesus is my lover" and "He is all that I need" because it never seems real and their actions always seem to say the opposite. even though i can't see what you're doing day-to-day, the choice of words and your tone in this post seemed so authentic and true that I don't deny that you've come to a place in your faith where Jesus is everything to you. And trust me bro, you've encouraged so many people because of that! I'm happy for you man. Keep it up."kevin"https://www.blogger.com/profile/02996307613418558723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-80074108989983419132008-07-08T10:53:00.000-05:002008-07-08T10:53:00.000-05:00Okay... where did this ewe person come from?Okay... where did this ewe person come from?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-3440923350619716132008-07-07T22:36:00.000-05:002008-07-07T22:36:00.000-05:00and i appreciate you not accusing people of doing ...and i appreciate you not accusing people of doing exactly what you are doing. Anytime you feel like apologizing Joe, i am here to hear it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-84128426300978232812008-07-07T18:30:00.000-05:002008-07-07T18:30:00.000-05:00Watch the language and keeps things civil!!! This...Watch the language and keeps things civil!!! This goes for everyone. I'd hate to start deleting comments, because I honestly do dislike doing that, but I feel like I've given more than enough warning about this.<BR/><BR/>Joe, so long as a commenter isn't out to just insult or belittle, but shows some interest in actually sharing ideas, I don't mind answering their questions or discussing differences of opinion. I do appreciate your concern though. :)Brendonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18248268499428066786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-90837600381430814122008-07-07T15:01:00.000-05:002008-07-07T15:01:00.000-05:00yeah right Joe. See no evil, hear no evil may wor...yeah right Joe. See no evil, hear no evil may work for right wing fundamentalists but others who live their lives differently are hardly silenced so easily. Grow up. It is you who put me down first if you noticed so do not twist this around. Instead get yourself a mirror you dismissive cunt.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-26128113871403410652008-07-07T14:31:00.000-05:002008-07-07T14:31:00.000-05:00Brandon,I don't think it will do you any good to r...Brandon,<BR/><BR/>I don't think it will do you any good to respond to ewe. He/she is a bully and senses (rightly or wrongly) that you will take the bait and allow yourself to be bullied.<BR/><BR/>Take care of yourself. You have more than enough to deal with without having to fend off haters on your own blog.ntgbrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05929717984864436973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-78697870603479981322008-07-06T18:50:00.000-05:002008-07-06T18:50:00.000-05:00Now that's a bit of a false question. There are d...Now that's a bit of a false question. There are different kinds of sex. What I believe is that only one kind of sex is okay, and that is the kind between a married man and woman. Gay sex and any sex outside of marriage is sinful though. There are many parts of the bible that make this claim, or suggest it.Brendonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18248268499428066786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-60407638428780231622008-07-05T00:32:00.000-05:002008-07-05T00:32:00.000-05:00well why do you think sex is a sin?well why do you think sex is a sin?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-85919022354164858152008-07-04T22:35:00.000-05:002008-07-04T22:35:00.000-05:00Ewe, I'm more than capable of thinking for myself....Ewe, I'm more than capable of thinking for myself. I've done a lot of thinking about this, and what you've read is my thoughts or conclusions. Nobody has told me what to think, and if they did, I'd tell them I'd make up my own mind on the matter. What you read is what I believe. If it sounds like what others in the church at large believe or say, well, I'll take that as a sign of Christian unity and concordance.<BR/><BR/>And I think I've already made clear why I feel bad about giving into homosexual activity. It has nothing to do with bouncing around from one guy to the next, which I haven't. It's because I believe it's a sin to do that.<BR/><BR/>Oh, and unless I misunderstood, I think what Karen meant was that she wouldn't give up the peace and joy and sense of purpose in life she has now by being with women again. If I'm wrong, Karen, please correct me.Brendonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18248268499428066786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-29555547394659055982008-07-03T19:48:00.000-05:002008-07-03T19:48:00.000-05:00Jay: i am simply saying hello big guy. Hi. woof. ...Jay: i am simply saying hello big guy. Hi. woof. wink. It's called flirting babe.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-18494485940206917632008-07-03T13:28:00.000-05:002008-07-03T13:28:00.000-05:00Ewe: What's with the wink? I don't think we've ev...Ewe: What's with the wink? I don't think we've ever interacted before, although I <I>have</I> seen some of your posts here, on Ex-Gay Watch, and on Alan Chambers' blog.Jayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15232291579882899350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-10386445325060338712008-07-03T13:10:00.000-05:002008-07-03T13:10:00.000-05:00Karen? you "WOULDN'T trade your best moments with...Karen? you "WOULDN'T trade your best moments with women?" BRAVO. and you include Jesus too. kudos to you. I like that. Congratulations. I hope you are happy with whoever you are with or will be with if you are currently single.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-7814299833214051272008-07-03T13:07:00.000-05:002008-07-03T13:07:00.000-05:00Karen? you "wouln't trade your best moments with ...Karen? you "wouln't trade your best moments with women?" BRAVO. and you include Jesus too. kudos to you. I like that. Congratulations. I hope you are happy with whoever you are with or will be with if you are currently single.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-54561702208530747442008-07-03T13:02:00.000-05:002008-07-03T13:02:00.000-05:00Brandon, you are not thinking anything on your ow...Brandon, you are not thinking anything on your own. Every word that came out of your mouth is prepackaged jargon complements of your church. If you feel bad about having sex, perhaps it is true that you are bouncing from guy to guy and i would understand that. You will not feel that way when and if you ever allow yourself to be ready to be loved by another man and love him in return. Your sex will be an expression of your closeness. It is obvious the only sex you have had with men is for yourself. You obviously feel bad about that because sex for sex sake is not what you are seeking. Having said that, it does not make sense for you to carry that further by blaming your homosexuality.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-3316909160868538642008-07-03T12:36:00.000-05:002008-07-03T12:36:00.000-05:00Great post Brandon. I was thinking how that heavin...Great post Brandon. I was thinking how that heaviness or guilt we may feel with sin--that sense of unhappiness is such a gift from God. Like with Word says, he sent his Spirit to convict us. Why? Because he wants it to be a turn signal to go in a way that is better for us. Like the pain receptors we have in our bodies. The pain we feel when touching a hot stove is what keeps us alive in the long run, making us remove ourselves from that which is harming us.<BR/><BR/>I have seen some ex-ex gays talk about how they are having a hard time getting past what they were taught in ex-gay circles, and that they still feel what they consider residual false guilt, and I feel sad for them because I believe they are mistakenly trying push away the very warning signal God has given them. They are ignoring their conscience.<BR/><BR/>Celibacy isn't the most fun thing in the world, but I wouldn't trade my best moments with the wonderful women I have been involved with for the peace and joy and sense of purpose in life I have now. Jesus is the best!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-42546357380852131902008-07-03T11:21:00.000-05:002008-07-03T11:21:00.000-05:00I actually liked what Rik had to say. Happiness c...I actually liked what Rik had to say. Happiness can't be found, I don't believe, in searching for one man after another like that. Whether the person is a straight woman or a gay man. The only person who can ever completely satisfy those wants is Jesus.<BR/><BR/>But that aside. Ewe, I do not feel bad for having homosexual feelings. I'll admit, in the past--and not too distant past--I have felt bad because of that. But what I'm talking about here is that it is the behavior that makes me feel bad. Not at the time I engage in such activity, but afterward. You're right. It is guilt. I feel guilty because I believe homosexual activity is sin. I think the Bible is quit clear on this subject, and I just feel such a strong sense in my soul that it's wrong, that it's sin. I'm not saying it's a sin to be gay (to have homosexual attractions), but that to act on those attractions is sinful. And because of that thought, regardless of however good I may feel while acting on those feelings, I always feel miserable afterwards. I feel as though I've done something displeasing to God. I know I've sinned and offended Him by doing so. And I love God. I don't want to offend Him or do anything to hurt Him. That's why I feel bad, or feel that guilt.<BR/><BR/>Aside from that, I don't feel like the man God made me to be when engaging in homosexual activity. I begin acting much more feminine. And in a way, I feel emasculated. I begin feeling like I'm something I shouldn't be, and confused.<BR/><BR/>And yes, I accept that some people are happy being gay. If they are, then good for them. May God bless them.<BR/><BR/>But let me clarify something again, Ewe. I do not think being gay is a sin. I only think that acting out on homosexual feelings is sin. There is a difference there, I believe. For instance, one could say I'm gay. I like other men. But that's not sin. God would never hold that against anyone. It's only sin when one acts on those feelings.<BR/><BR/>And again, I'm not fighting anyone. I'm just sharing my thoughts. No one has to accept or believe anything I say. If you're happy, Ewe, that's fine. I'm glad you're enjoying your life. But please understand, just because some people find enjoyment or peace or whatever by accepting their homosexuality and by giving into those feelings, that doesn't mean everyone else can.Brendonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18248268499428066786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-80884310043170126602008-07-03T11:12:00.000-05:002008-07-03T11:12:00.000-05:00Rikfleming: if you hadn't noticed the topic is no...Rikfleming: if you hadn't noticed the topic is not about a woman. Why don't you give comprehension another chance! Your comment is dismissive and must be confronted for its stupidiy and lack of staying on topic. Brandon is discussing gay sex and how it makes him feel bad, not about being gay and certainly not about some straigh polygamous woman from ancient times. Do you have a point other than throwing the word Jesus around like its used toilet tissue?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-53368416478892806882008-07-03T11:08:00.000-05:002008-07-03T11:08:00.000-05:00rikfleming:oh puke and gag. so what. You quote o...rikfleming:<BR/>oh puke and gag. so what. You quote one passage that allegedly happened over 2000 years ago. Got anything current?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-4896126966756009922008-07-03T07:50:00.000-05:002008-07-03T07:50:00.000-05:00"Maybe you just have not met the right guy yet?"Th..."Maybe you just have not met the right guy yet?"<BR/><BR/>The Samaritan woman in The Gospel of John chapter 4 had the same philosophy. She had 5 husbands and the 6th she hadn't gotten around to marrying yet. But then she met the right man. His name?<BR/><BR/>J-E-S-U-SErikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618960202550806181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-73123641348657042302008-07-03T02:56:00.000-05:002008-07-03T02:56:00.000-05:00oh hi there Jay. wink blinkoh hi there Jay. wink blinkAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-6810105841027299182008-07-03T02:52:00.000-05:002008-07-03T02:52:00.000-05:00that is me above as anonymous. ok over and out. ...that is me above as anonymous. ok over and out. i have talked enough.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-29648408156742699312008-07-03T02:51:00.000-05:002008-07-03T02:51:00.000-05:00there is one very all important question brandon. ...there is one very all important question brandon. Why? Why do you feel bad when you sleep with someone of your own sex? Answer it. stick to the question. I don't want to hear all the analysis. What is the feeling you are having because you are sexual with another guy? share your answer on that very basic thing that is making you so unhappy please. Maybe you just have not met the right guy yet?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-39806202919927032122008-07-03T02:46:00.000-05:002008-07-03T02:46:00.000-05:00Brandon. are you capable of hearing that there ar...Brandon. are you capable of hearing that there are gay men who like being gay and that they felt the same way you once did and processed those natural feelings by not fighting them? You deserve to be free of self criticism. This topic is hard enough for us with so many putting us down and condeming us to their version of hell without us doing it to ourselves. Ask god if you speak with god to lift this pain from you. the pain is not being gay, your pain is how you are dealing with it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-19840587469212763102008-07-03T02:37:00.000-05:002008-07-03T02:37:00.000-05:00you use god as a political tool. you just said yo...you use god as a political tool. you just said your point is that being gay is a sin. You are full of nonsense. You say you feel bad when you act out your true feelings. It does not seem to be your true feelings that bother you as much as your behavior. You are a victim of religious terrorism. work on you shame for goodness sake. You know i correct that last statement. It is guilt you feel not shame. I know what shame feels like and whenever i have ever felt shame i fucking change immediately, quietly and without an ounce of fanfare. you feel guilt because guilt is what you are feeding off. guilt is what makes you feel good. guilt makes you feel alive. I feel sorry for you and the dilemma you have created. It is not new. It is not unique. It is up to you to work through your feelings that are a result of societal expectations and ignorance that have been incorrectly ingrained into all of us and it is up to you to recognize it is damaging to you as a gay person whether you wanna say and admit you are gay or not. Brandon, you are exhausting.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-45895995691609438742008-07-02T19:59:00.000-05:002008-07-02T19:59:00.000-05:00I definitely think you should not be worrying abou...I definitely think you should not be worrying about what other people think. People are always quick to tell others what is best for them. If you are happier being single, then stay single. You can't please everyone and at the end of the day it is your relationship with God that is the most important thing. Good luck.freelancerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04904397680024736916noreply@blogger.com