tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post8070395440983426439..comments2023-05-26T07:41:53.109-05:00Comments on Afterthoughts On A Whirlwind Journey: Coming Out YoungUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-70569486538974643032009-11-02T11:38:57.526-06:002009-11-02T11:38:57.526-06:00I agree that whenever a person has sinful thoughts...I agree that whenever a person has sinful thoughts, they should definitely try not to linger on them. That still wouldn't change what sort of thoughts a person may have though.<br /><br />As for your first question, I think it would have helped me if my parents had not treated sex, in general, as a sort of taboo subject. Neither of my parents ever sat down with me and discussed anything about sex. It would have been nice if I had felt as though I could be open and honest with them about my feelings, but that was a subject that I knew they just didn't want to ever talk about. It didn't help either that from time to time I overheard them saying negative things about homosexuals. They were never too cruel about anything, but there was just always this negative tone, as though it was a horrible, disgraceful thing for someone to be gay. Thankfully, that is something that hasn't happened since I came out to them. But it always did crush me before to hear them talk badly about people who was going through the same thing as myself. It made me feel like I couldn't talk about that with them. It would have been nice if my parents had just sat down with me at least by the time I was thirteen or fourteen and talked with me about what sex is, and to have allowed me to discuss any thoughts I'd had about it. I wish they'd just been a bit more open about that sort of thing.<br /><br />Do I ever see myself being a father? Yes and no. I think I'd be a good father, actually. I've helped a lot with raising my nephews, and there are moments when it has felt as though I am their father. But I don't think I'd ever be a good husband. I really don't think I could ever be married to a woman. So, unless I adopted a child, I really don't see how I'd ever be a father. And really, I have wondered if God has allowed me to spend so much time with my nephews just so that I could experience "sort of" being a father.Brendonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18248268499428066786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6319921527453210584.post-24435605285140875832009-11-01T22:11:59.344-06:002009-11-01T22:11:59.344-06:00Good points here, Brandon. The idea we can convinc...Good points here, Brandon. The idea we can convince middle-schoolers they don't know what they're talking about is a no-win situation. I have a 13-year-old daughter and I know that to be a fact!<br />It's better to have everything in the open. I have a question for you about your preference. I told my daughter from an early age that if there was ever a time she felt a physical attraction to another girl that she should consciously boot that thought from her mind similar to the biblical command to "take every thought captive that is not of Christ". While that may be a fitting response, sexuality of any kind is riven with sinful thoughts and impulses. As a male attracted to females, I am certain I have just as many inappropriate thoughts as you do so I'm not judging here.<br /><br />My question is this: Is there anything you would have your parents tell you growing up that you feel would have helped you better deal with your same sex attraction? The question also goes with whether you see yourself as a father some day.Jim Jordanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12456957270007304493noreply@blogger.com